The question still remains. Everytime I see couples who have been married for years, I always wonder how and what their secrets are. Do they still get attracted to each other they way they did in the beginning? Do they keep their love lives spicy? Or do they just not care that much anymore and are only together for the sake of being together?
We all know that being physically attracted to our partner is important. With this, we always tend to look our best; we dress up, wear make up, fix our hair, and even push ourselves to hit the gym. Of course, as time passes, we can't help but to become complacent. We get too comfortable that we start to not care about how we look anymore and we expect them to love us either way. We expect them to love the fact that we're comfortable enough to just wear a t-shirt and sweatpants, wear a bare face without any make-up, or even being fully content with our body without wanting to improve it anymore.
In an article by Dr. Vivian Diller, Is Love Really Blind? A New Survey Provides Answers, she listed sets of surveys for males and females to judge whether physical attraction towards their partners still mattered. From the article, it said that 78% of males and females still cared about this physical attraction. Why attraction? Attraction is the magnetic charm that lures us to our partners. Yes, it is essential for a long term relationship because it is what keeps the chemistry going. Obviously if partners were still attracted to each other and are satisfied with each other's appearance, they would be more than confident about their relationship together. We can relate this to marriage and divorce. In Divorce Causes: 5 Marriage Mistakes That Lead to Divorce by Kim Olver, she states that the main reason is cheating. Cheating because many people are unsatisfied with their partners and turn to infidelity. If they are unsatisfied, they begin to fantasize about other partners and actually risk their relationship. If you were in this position and realized that your partner was no longer attracted to you, wouldn't you instinctively hit the gym, dress better, wear make-up again just to save your relationship?
With this information, we now see how important physical attraction is even if it may seem overly superficial. It is normal;however because evolution plays a huge role in what we as individuals are attracted to. As superficial as it sounds, as a girl, I'm attracted to muscles and height because from the earliest stages of civilization, these males are those who are superior. A great thing about superiority for males is it comes with privileges. Privileges like being picky about choosing mates.
How exactly do they choose mates? It is evident to us that they will choose those who display beauty, fertility and youth. Choosing the right female's genes is actually the most important to the male's reproduction strategies.
Still, we are chosen based on the appearance we display. Our physical appearance may seem as if it is only on the surface; however, it actually shows our body's physical fitness. It can reveal our age and abilities to reproduce. Again, this is why we give all this importance to beauty, and we try to hide all imperfections. We hide behind masks that conceal and disguise who we might really be. Masks we now call make-up.
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